the one thing we know for sure
As this day has been approaching I've thought about the anniversaries of death that affect me. "Everyday," I've thought to myself, "someone is struggling through the death of a loved one." I have certain days, and weeks, of the year during which I bitterly remember those I once knew. They're often just another day to those around me. Sometimes I feel that way, too. Other times I'm paralyzed by the memories. I reckon that each of these days is also a day of relief for others. They are anniversaries of a close call, the near miss of catastrophe. I met a young man on a plane this summer who's aunt was mean't to be on one of those flights, 18 years ago. She made a last minute choice to change her plans. Damn. How does that change the way you grieve such an event? I have found that the best way to grieve days like this one is to do just that, grieve. Explore the way it affects me. Write it out. Share it. Think about it. D...